The 10 Worst Wedding Etiquette Mistakes (Slideshow)
July 15, 2014
Whether you are the newlyweds-to-be or a clueless guest, these tips can help
For the Newlyweds: Having Cash Bar
Your guests dressed up, drove, and gave you a gift, and you’re making them throw down for some drinks? Don’t be that couple. If budget is the problem, at least have two kinds of wine available, and a signature drink to keep your party from going dry.
For the Newlyweds: Adding Registry Info to the Invitation
While doing this is tempting, it’s a major wedding etiquette no-no and a total turn-off to your guests. Save the gift-gab for your wedding website or wedding app. You can politely direct guests to your registry by linking your site or app on your Save the Date, keeping things classy and interactive.
For the Guest: Being Photo-Happy
A wedding is a special chapter in a couple’s story, and naturally, we all want to take part in capturing that happiness. But every lean over the aisle, flash during first dance, or snapping of the cake cutting with your smartphone, tablet, or camera is potentially destroying the photos that the bride and groom invested in. They want you to be celebrating their union, not clicking away behind a screen; leave the photography to the professionals.
For the Newlyweds: Forgetting to Feed Vendors
If you think being a Bridezilla is bad, you’ve never crossed paths with a hungry vendor! In all seriousness, your vendors are working tirelessly to ensure that your wedding day turns out as perfect as you dreamed, so keep them inspired with a hot meal at a reasonable hour.
For the Guest: RSVPing and Not Showing
The bride and groom purchased your plate, so you can’t just flake out last minute. Life happens, but when it comes to not making the date when you’ve checked yes, the excuse better be good and the present better be big.
For the Newlyweds/Guests: Hangover Horror
Back in the day, the bachelor/bachelorette parties were saved for the night before. This resulted in baggy-eyed brides and grooms with bad attitudes during the biggest moment of their lives. Don’t let hanging late lead to a hangover — go for a good night’s rest instead.
For the Guest: Wearing White to a Wedding
White, in all of its forms, is reserved for the bride only. You cannot show up on a couple’s special way wearing an attention-seeking white frock. It is simply rude.
For the Newlyweds: Not Inviting Bridal Shower Guests
So they made the cut for the gifting fest known as the bridal shower, but not the wedding? Feelings will be hurt and drama is bound to ensue. Save yourself the headache and only invite the people who are important enough to you to have at every event.
For the Newlyweds: Forgoing Thank You Cards
This task may feel tedious, but there is nothing nastier than ungrateful newlyweds. Thanking your guests for their gifts and their time is one of the most overlooked wedding duties. So crank up that new coffeemaker that cousin Marty gave you and get to writing those notes.
For the Newlyweds: Forgetting to Enjoy Yourself
Maybe it rains on what was supposed to be your perfect day, or your bouquet has the wrong colored peonies, but don’t forget the reason you’re doing this wedding thing in the first place. Don't throw a fit at all of the hiccups that may happen. You are getting to marry your special someone, and what could be more perfect than that? Keep that in mind and don’t let petty imperfections ruin the celebration of your love.