What Your Drink Order Says About You on a Date Slideshow
August 14, 2015
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You’re playful, and young at heart — but maybe, just slightly, immature. "You want to have a good time, but you might fizzle out while the night (and the relationship) is still young," says Christopher. For the LBGT community, fruity drinks are a big no-go, says Frank Mastronuzzi from OneLove, a dating website for the LBGT community. "For gay men, I always tell people to stay away from high-maintenance colorful drinks like raspberry mojitos or anything that requires a lot of garnish. It screams high maintenance and makes men think you require a lot of attention. It also says you may not be body or image conscious.”
"Order a drink with two elements (rum and cola; gin and tonic) and you're easygoing,” says Christopher. "Life is simple for you and you know what makes you happy. And it doesn't take a lot to make you happy. You like things uncomplicated. You'll be a loyal companion and most happy to please your partner." Mixed drinks are the way to go, especially if you’re on a diet, Mastronuzzi says. "With Bethenny [Frankel] making the 'skinny' margarita in fashion, clear mixed drinks show you are sensible, savvy, and [help you] watch your calories," says Mastronuzzi. "Clear drinks don't scream high maintenance and they demonstrate your confidence."
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As Christopher says, you're open to fun. "You are a collaborator and can go with the flow," she says. "You want to have fun as well as have a serious conversation about what your ideal future looks like."
"Order a craft beer and you're down-to-earth,” says Christopher . "You dress casually, love to hang out with pals and have a good time. You value creativity and
craftsmanship and are willing to step outside the box in your thinking. You'll make a fun travel companion as your love of exploring new flavors, places, and foods guides your heart." Says Angela Lutin, a dating guru, advice columnist, and the blogger behind EssentiallyAngel, a a girl who orders a beer is the classic "girl next door." "Keep her away from your guy friends," she says. "They will want to steal her!"
"For a gay man, a beer usually says you are 'a masculine, sports-oriented gay man,'" says Mastronuzzi. "If you're drinking a beer, most gay men assume you are the active one in the relationship. You still need to watch your calorie intake, so light beer is the way to go." The same goes for lesbians, Mastronuzzi says — beer-drinking lesbians usually indicate a sports-oriented, active, woman who likes to be in control.
A tip for those who get intimidated by a beer: "If there is a large
beer menu but you don’t see your particular brand, then show off your
ability to trust in others by asking the server what they consider would be
a similar brew," says Ellis.
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A woman who orders wine is generally seen as a "safety first" kind of woman. "By ordering wine, she keeps her cards close to the vest," says Lutin. "A safe choice, she’s not willing to reveal too much about her personality until she scopes out what you like. Spend time learning about this woman — what you see might not be all you get." Likewise, Ellis from ChainDate.com notes that wine is seen as a conservative kind of drink. But others may disagree: "For lesbian women, wine is the perfect cocktail to order. It shows that you are effeminate, sophisticated, and know what you want," says Mastronuzzi.
It’s an all-around sex bomb kind of drink for both men and women. (We imagine it’s the same for bourbon drinkers as well.) "A Scotch on the rocks indicates a strong, adventurous woman who knows what she wants," says Marla Martensen, a matchmaker, dating coach, and owner of the matchmaking company, Cupid for Hire. Daniels agrees; Scotch is a throwback to the movies of the 1940s and men in fedoras. "There’s something about a man sipping on a Scotch," she says. Can’t say that we can argue with that. The same goes for women, too. "I've seen lesbians who are able to pull off Scotch neat... making it look sexy," says Mastronuzzi.
If you like a glass of bubbly at the bar, you’re likely sending mixed signals — after all, the responses we got from the dating experts ranged from "sophisticated and charming" to "pretentious." There’s no getting around a celebratory feeling, Greene notes. Says Lutin, "She doesn’t just celebrate on special occasions; she toasts to life 365 days a year. Expect intelligence paired with a fun-loving demeanor from this lady." On the flip side, says Daniels, "There’s a certain connotation with champagne. If you order it when you sit down for a simple cocktail, you’re sending a certain message." Bottom line: Save it for when the two of you have something to celebrate.
Likely the most controversial liquid you can order on a date. "Even if you love water, drink water throughout the day, and always only drink water, don't order water as your only beverage on date number one," says LaCota. "Why? It gives off the impression that you are cheap, unadventurous, and boring," she says. "More importantly, it will make your date uncomfortable — 'guess I should just order water though I would really like a glass of wine…'" Daniels agreed that water makes you seem dismissive to the person across the table. "Even if you don’t want an alcoholic beverage, order something — sparkling water, club soda, cranberry juice," she advises.
Greene suggests what to do if you don’t order an alcoholic beverage and your date presses you on it. If you’re a female and don’t feel like disclosing why you’re not drinking (i.e. you’re on antibiotics), you can say that you’re simply watching your calories, or that you have a big day tomorrow. (Maybe don’t say that at a barbecue joint, though.) Or, Greene says, just order your drink with confidence — a Diet Coke with lemon, for example — and no one will question you. And if you’re not a fan of alcoholic beverages, going to a bar is likely not where you’re going to meet your soul mate — but that’s something we didn’t need the professionals to tell us.