Modern Etiquette Questions Answered

Navigating the social waters in the 21st century isn’t so easy
Modern Etiquette Guide

Your guide to navigating greetings, gifts, and grub.

To say the modern world is constantly evolving and rapidly changing is an understatement, and there are certain etiquette guidelines and rules that feel… outdated. Kissing a woman’s hand when introduced, for instance, is less than charming in the 2010s. To figure out how to best navigate the waters of etiquette in the 21st century, The Daily Meal reached out to five etiquette experts to see just how much things have changed.

Should You Still Call a Woman Ma'am? and Other Modern Etiquette Questions Answered Gallery

We corresponded via email with Sharon Schweitzer (an expert in etiquette and modern manners and founder of Access to Culture), Angie Allison (chief etiquette officer and master etiquette trainer at Daily Protocol), Myka Meier (founder and director of Beaumont Etiquette), Jennifer Porter (a manners instructor in Seattle), and Jodi Smith (etiquette consultant from Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting) to get their insights on modern etiquette.

During an era in which age and gender can be touchy subjects, is it still appropriate to refer to your elders as “ma’am” and “sir”? Should you ditch the BYOB gathering once you graduate college, or is that a perfectly fine way to cut your own party planning budget and ensure your guests have their favorite drinks on hand? Who pays for a date? How do you let your host know about food allergies? There are more etiquette questions than you can even imagine, but luckily we have the answers.