There are a lot of obviously rude behaviors out there. Chewing with your mouth open, using your cell phone in a crowded movie theater, treating waiters condescendingly, and being inexcusably late to an engagement are all things most people know not to do. But for every obvious breach of etiquette out there, there are some inconsiderate acts so widespread that people don’t even always realize how improper they are.
The most common rude behavior out there: gossiping. According to The Daily Mail
, 80 percent of our conversations are about other people, so gossiping is everywhere
, whether or not it’s malicious. And though it may be difficult to swear off, gossiping is the one rude behavior you should really quit. Whether you’re chatting in the office or among friends, make it a goal to eschew this uncivilized behavior. Beyond it simply being rude, check out these three reasons why you should never gossip:It Can Have Real Consequences
Gossip can have a real effect on people. On the most basic level, it can lead to low self-esteem. However, the fallout can even be worse than that. Particularly cruel gossip could lead to job loss and health issues stemming from unnecessary stress. Gossip can sometimes backfire on the gossiper too. If you say something incredibly outlandish and false, you can be taken to court for slander.Your Reputation Will Be Tarnished
If you’re known as a gossip, people won’t want to associate with you or confide in you. Essentially, your trustworthiness will be diminished and nobody will want to tell you anything of importance. Being a gossip will also raise other questions about your character. Are you a “fake” person? A liar? People won’t be so sure anymore.At the End of the Day, It’s Uninteresting
The ability to engage in decent conversation says something about yourself. If you’re friendly, intelligent, and have varied outside interests, you’ll be far more memorable and interesting to talk to. Defaulting to talking about other people is relatively dull.