What I like to tell people is that you set the utensils in the order you use them.
A. Linen Napkin B. Dinner Plate C. Soup Bowl D. Butter Plate and Butter Knife E. Water Glass F. White Wine Glass G. Red Wine Glass H. Fish Fork I. Dinner Fork J. Salad Fork K. Steak Knife and or Fish Knife (the Fish Knife is optional) L. Dinner Knife M. Soup Spoon N. Dessert Fork/ Spoon